- Q: What do you mean when you say, “Love is not about power”?
- GLORIA STEINEM: When I was writing Revolution from Within, I wrote a chapter about the difference between romance and love. It dawned on me that love is about wanting what’s best for the other person; it’s two whole people. Romance is about wanting the other person; it’s two fractional people trying to become whole. Nobody else can be the rest of you because you’re unique. Romance is often about power and possession. It may turn into love, but it has different characteristics. Some say it’s the most intense form of curiosity and exploring—which is why it burns out. Someone else cannot be the rest of you.
ok so all these guys who are like “men have it hard too!!! we’re expected to be manly and emotionless, we have feelings!!!” do realize that it’s other men who enforce those standards on guys. literally guys created those standards to be more powerful than women. so maybe instead of getting angry at girls for talking about their oppression, realize that you should be fighting with girls against unfair gender expectations and inequality